Muriel Rutledger said "The universe is made up of stories not of atoms."
This is so true. Our first stories are family stories. These stories inform our identity and our choices too. Have you ever heard a family story which began "people like us never/always..."? Or maybe you've heard the one that begins "you take after your uncle/aunt .."
There are all kinds of stories. There are the stories we have been told and the stories we tell ourselves. Some of them inspire us and some of them wound us. Some stories build our faith in ourselves and make us strong. Other stories steal our energy or write us off before we even begin.
In my work as a Coach, I always pay close attention to the story a new client tells me at our first meeting. There are always hidden layers and threads, beliefs inherited from their families of origin and beliefs they have come to themselves. Sometimes a speaker has told a story so often that they don't hear themselves anymore. Others have never felt heard in their whole lives. Some stories were true once but are no longer true now.
I remember once working with a young woman who told me through her tears "nobody loves me". As we dug down through the layers she found that she was deeply loved by her family but she had never felt understood by them. This new insight opened up a whole range of choices for her. She found that she could really receive the love of her family and feel free to receive understanding from her close friends.
This is so true. Our first stories are family stories. These stories inform our identity and our choices too. Have you ever heard a family story which began "people like us never/always..."? Or maybe you've heard the one that begins "you take after your uncle/aunt .."
There are all kinds of stories. There are the stories we have been told and the stories we tell ourselves. Some of them inspire us and some of them wound us. Some stories build our faith in ourselves and make us strong. Other stories steal our energy or write us off before we even begin.
In my work as a Coach, I always pay close attention to the story a new client tells me at our first meeting. There are always hidden layers and threads, beliefs inherited from their families of origin and beliefs they have come to themselves. Sometimes a speaker has told a story so often that they don't hear themselves anymore. Others have never felt heard in their whole lives. Some stories were true once but are no longer true now.
I remember once working with a young woman who told me through her tears "nobody loves me". As we dug down through the layers she found that she was deeply loved by her family but she had never felt understood by them. This new insight opened up a whole range of choices for her. She found that she could really receive the love of her family and feel free to receive understanding from her close friends.
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