I was so moved recently when a client told me that our work together gave her the space to see her 'broken heart.' Most people try to run away from their broken hearts. And it just doesn't work. The secret that nobody talks about is that if your heart is broken, it happened already. What I mean by this is that the hurtful event has already occurred. Pretending to yourself that your heart is not broken, when it is, makes no sense whatsoever. But we all do it at some point in our lives. A better way, is to look at our broken heart and listen to our broken heart. What is your broken heart saying to you? What does your broken heart really need? Only by looking and listening will you truly know.
A long time ago, I worked with a woman whose lengthy marriage had ended. She had tried everything and she felt she could not let go of the past and all the feelings she had about it. We sat together as she listened to her broken heart. What she came up with was that her heart needed to say goodbye to her marriage. She decided to take a day to visit all the places dear to her. She visited the cinema where they had their first date, the street corner where they had their first kiss, the church in which they said their vows. She laughed and she cried. She said goodbye. She honoured the needs of her broken heart... and she began to heal.