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My Irish Identity

3/26/2012

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I will never be six feet tall and I will never not be Irish. This is how I feel. Even if I had stayed in London, I would always be Irish. I will always have blue eyes and I will always be Irish. It's in my DNA, it's in my blood and bones. I could try to fight it but I would never win.  I could wear purple contact lenses but I will always have blue eyes. I could get myself another accent, English, American or Australian,  but I will always be Irish.. This is how I feel. This is who I am.

Ireland doesn't belong to me. I belong to Ireland. Something in me lets out a long sigh when I come home. I can live in other places. I can even love other places. But something in me unfurls and says 'home' when I am in Ireland. Though I might hate the corruption, the nepotism, the lies and the injustice  I am 'ceangailt' to this place. (ceangailt can mean tied as in chained or it can mean a deep bond, a warm connection. Pronounced kang-guilt.) 
I have experienced both kinds of ties to Ireland.

 
Today, my bond with Ireland is deep and warm. I no longer feel chained by the past. I cherish the freedom I now know I have. This would never have been possible for me had I not lived in London. London taught me to make my own choices. It taught me to ask for what I want and to persist until I had it.  

...In a strange kind of way, living in London gave me back my heritage, my identity as an Irishwoman.

Have had a similar experience. 
Do you feel more Irish, living  and working in another country? 
Has being abroad helped you to overcome the shadows of the past? 
Do you feel this 'ceangailt', this bond with Ireland though you were born and reared in another country?   
Do you know yourself to be Irish though your passport says something else....
  

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Liam link
3/26/2012 10:48:21 pm

Dia duit Martine
Lovely post and one in which I can definitely relate to.

Since leaving Ireland for America almost 10 years ago I have never lost touch with the country that'll always be 'home' to me. If anything my bond is stronger, and I guess I too am 'ceangailt' to it.

Tomorrow I head home for the first time in almost 2 years - the longest I've ever stayed away. I'd go back more often if I could but rising airline tickets and a growing family :) have a say in that.

Ireland has so much to offer, that I think a lot of Irish don't get or see until we are away from home.
Best wishes

Liam

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Martine Brennan link
3/27/2012 12:49:59 am

Dia is Muire dhuit Liam
Safe journey home and I hope you get some of the lovely sunshine we have had in the last few days for your visit. Two years is a long time to be away. But you are so right, it is much easier to manage one ticket and a lot harder when you have a family. It was lovely to get your comment. I know from the stats that a lot of people are reading the blog and coming back for regular visits but nothing beats an old comment or two.
I hope your visit home renews you and fills up the 'Irish stores.' There is a lot of anger and depression around about the cost of the bailout but there are pockets of light here and there. Here's hoping you find them!

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Liam link
3/27/2012 01:22:48 am

Thanks Martine
I can't wait to get back to Cork and soak up some of that Irish sunshine :) I'm coming from southern California where the sun always shines :)
I definitely will be looking for the "pockets of light". There's plenty of them. And if I can't find them, I might find a nice fireside in a countryside pub to cozy up to :)

Liam

Yanks House link
10/18/2012 05:55:21 am

Standing in the rain in Dublin after a few years living in Australia I had a very strong sense of being Irish and being hone - I was happy

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Martine Brennan link
10/18/2012 03:34:09 pm

Welcome, welcome home! Martine

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Caroline
11/2/2012 07:19:34 am

Exactly how I feel. I was born in London to Irish parents. Every school holiday was spent there. Although not everything about Ireland is great (there are lots bad) my connection and love for this small Isle grows stronger and stronger. I also am ceangailt to this place I call 'home'

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Martine Brennan link
11/6/2012 12:56:57 am

Lovely to hear about your experience Caroline. I am so glad your experience has been mostly a good one. I hope you will stop by again from time to time. Martine

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IrelandRose
11/11/2012 08:49:48 am

Not long ago I got my first tattoo, I thought and thought about what to get. I didn't want to regret it when I'm 85. Then it came to me, I'll get a shamrock, I can't change the fact that I'm Irish. I wasn't born in Ireland but the pull I feel is so very strong. Its like the island is drawing me there. I want to go so badly. I have entered every contest to win a trip that I know about to no avail. I can't explain it but it completely over comes me, & when I hear Irish music more than not I'm over whelmed with emotion. The only thing on my bucket list is to visit Ireland. I just need money of which I have none. I just hope & pray I make it there someday. This ceangailt is amazing.

Martine Brennan link
11/12/2012 12:13:05 pm

Dear Ireland Rose, I do hope that somehow you find your way home soon. When the pull is so strong it can be almost painful...thank you for taking the time to share your experience. Martine

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IrelandRose
11/12/2012 01:50:21 pm

Oh ma'am did you get that right. I thought maybe I was a little wacko!! Unless you experience it people might not understand that don't have any connection to Ireland. I get goosebumps & tears in my eyes when I hear Irish music & especially bagpipes. Thanks for understanding.

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mary link
11/15/2012 01:44:30 am

I am just trying to design my second identity online (personal rather than professional/work/English version) and wanted an Irish one when I came across your site and blog and felt compelled to write. I was born and raised in Fermanagh but wondered why I was feeling so much in need of renewal. I'm homesick and need to book my ticket home today instead of fine-tuning my Irish identity online. Go raibh maith agat (my spelling might be a bit rusty - it's been a while!!

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Martine Brennan link
11/15/2012 06:25:45 am

Perfect spelling Mary! Welcome home and hope you get fully topped up before you return to foreign shores. Mx

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Leanne
2/24/2013 04:33:41 am

I'm an Aussie of Irish decent living on London. I've been in London 12 years but still feel my soul is Australian. My grandfather was the youngest of 13 and the only one of his brothers and sisters not born in Ireland. He foster my interest in Ireland and it was the first country I visited in Europe when I first ventured from Down Under. I felt like I just fitted in Dublin. Galway, Kerry, it all felt so familiar. Only 4 years ago I traced my blood line as I always new I was adopted. I was certain I had to be of Irish blood, it felt right. And I am. I'm an Egan. An Irish-Australian and so very proud.

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Martine Brennan link
2/25/2013 05:36:15 am

What an amazing story this is Leanne! I am so glad you were able to find your roots... it is so important. Mx

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Elizabeth O'Connell
3/27/2013 02:31:13 am

My mum & her parents were all born in Dublin & her grandma in Belfast. My mum, her parents & my grandma's siblings are all dead. Unfortunately as I have aged I want to know all about my Irish heritage, but I waited too long. I was born in America & have been to Ireland twice but something there keeps a tight lead on me & I can't shake it. Ireland is who I am. Nothing will ever change that.

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Martine Brennan link
3/30/2013 05:05:44 am

Elizabeth dear, thank you for writing in and sharing your experience with us. I would not like to give you you false hope but with the growth of Irish records online it might still be possible for you to trace your family. The volunteers here http://www.irelandxo.com/group/county-dublin/parishes would be delighted to help you if they can.We number 2,000 now and are growing by the day. If you have letters or memorial cards, they can be ever so helpful. I wish you great good luck if you decide to search. Martine

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Frances Quirke
1/13/2015 05:42:47 am

Martine, I tried to download one of your books onto my Kindle. I find it much easier to read from that than ordinary books, but I just couldn't find any on Amazon. Please advise. Your help is appreciated

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Martine Brennan link
1/13/2015 03:43:25 pm

Hi Frances, The pdf. version of the Happy book is no longer available. It was never on Amazon. The book is small and very tactile if you change your mind....
Warm wishes
Martine

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James McNamara link
8/15/2015 04:44:52 pm

Hi Martine, I really get this with many triggers of my own experienced each of my trips home. Mostly it is the green grass that immediately makes me feel at home. Otherwise it is my cousins who make me feel more like family than my own dysfunctional one here. Long stories that may one day be told. Thank you for this piece. All the best,

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Martine Brennan link
7/14/2019 02:42:44 pm

Thanks for writing in James. Cousins are the best! I love mine. They too give me another experience of family which I treasure. Martine

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