Dear potential 'NO' Voter,
I just had to write to you to clear up some misunderstandings about what a YES vote means in the Marriage Equality Referendum.
I want to make you a promise that no-one will ever force you to marry a man, if you are a man, or a woman, if you are a woman. Also I can promise you that you will never be forced to attend a gay marriage ceremony nor a gay stag or hen night.
YOUR Civil Rights will never be negatively affected in any shape or form. You are a first class citizen of Ireland with the right to marry if you choose, and the right to protect your spouse and the place he or she has in your life even when you are no-longer here.
A YES vote will not make your sons and daughters gay.
It will not ruin the fabric of your family life.
A YES vote will mean that people who are probably not related to you in any way, the second class citizens of Ireland, will be able to have the same right to marry as you.
Let me be very clear.
YOU will never have to participate in these ceremonies.
Their decision to marry is NOT CONTAGIOUS.
You are perfectly safe.
I sincerely hope that now that you know that a YES vote will not harm you in any way that you will vote YES for those of us who have family and friends who are gay and would love to have a day out and an excuse to buy a big hat!
another Irish Mammy
PS Your comments are welcome but given the ferocity of some peoples' reactions I reserve the right to decline comments which are aggressive or hate-filled.
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